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Giving Tuesday

Hey Everyone :) Hope you all had a great Thanksgiving! I know it's a super busy time of year and everyone has been out with family, shopping, shopping, and more shopping- or maybe you aren't a shopper, in that case you've hopefully been relaxing! 

We have been getting a lot of facebook comments, messages, and e-mails asking what we are doing this year for the community for Christmas. Last year we got a bunch of people involved and bought a bunch of families gifts. It was a ton of fun and we loved delivering the gifts and it will be something we will never forget. We especially appreciate all of you helping out with it!

THIS YEAR we have a special spot in our hearts for our own local community who don't have food, shelter, or even relationships for that matter. We are striving to help those people. We have partnered up with Food for Thought, a local social justice organization dedicated to feeding the hungry and offering dignity, welcome and relationship to anyone in need. Food for Thought and local volunteers get together EVERY FRIDAY night to make peanut butter and jelly sandwiches and put together lunches for hundreds of people. They then deliver them Saturday morning in area's of downtown Toledo where people desperately need food. They hangout there, eat lunch with them, chat with them, listen to music- rain or snow- they are there. It's truly incredible. I've gone to make lunches with them and I took my kids who colored and decorated the brown paper bags. They loved it. 

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They also have a stationary food pantry along with several mobile food pantries. They serve over 1100 families just out of their stationary pantry every month. It's an awesome grassroots organization that has really  taken off in the last several years. Sam Melden is the Executive Director and is doing a great job. Watch him talk about Giving Tuesday HERE (I kept trying to put the video here but it keeps telling me the format is not supported so whatever, just click the link and watch it!)

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So back to Giving Tuesday! Today I have committed to donating $10 a month for Food for Thought and I am asking you to do the same. Brandi and I felt that this was an incredible cause and we spend $10 a month easily on things that are not important. This is something that is important. Food for Thought is working towards a goal today of getting 150 people to commit to just 10$ a month. If they reach that goal they will have raised $18,000 in ONE DAY! We are asking you to consider giving just $10 a month to help feed your community! and you can do it here: 

http://www.feedtoledo.org/#/donate

If you're on social media feel free to pass it along using hashtags #GivingTuesday #FeedToledo and #FoodForThought

Thank you from the bottom of our hearts and Happy Giving Tuesday!

- Lisa

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Our New Thanksgiving Tradition- by Brandi

Since I have been a mom each holiday holds a more special place in my heart. I get to experience and witness each celebration through the eyes and excitement of my almost six year old and ten month old. We get to spend the day together as a family.

As a mom, it also has become incredibly important to me to focus on the “TRUE” reason for each holiday.  I want my boys to know WHY we are celebrating.   I want the reason to be more important than the day off school or big expensive gifts. I want my children to know the history and spirit of each and every holiday, but of course with our own Family W twist.

When Dylan woke up at his normal 7:00am on the dot we read Thanksgiving Is For Giving Thanks to set the grateful mood. And then we did a something a little silly... we mashed up the holidays to create our new Thanksgiving tradition.

Dylan loves is obsessed with Easter (even more so than Christmas).  The coloring off eggs.  The Easter egg hunt.  The jellybeans.  He just loves it all. He talks about Easter throughout the year, and often asks to color eggs.  A few days before Thanksgiving, Dylan said “I wish it was Easter instead of Thanksgiving.” I thought why not mash it up. Incorporate his favorite holidays while staying true to Thanksgiving, and so we did...

We colored eggs.

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We pulled out those cheap plastic eggs.  Dylan picked out his favorite color ones green, orange, and blue.  Leaving me with the purple, pink, and yellow ones.

And here is where the Thanksgiving part comes in. Denny (the husband) and I filled Dylan’s eggs with notes of things we are so very grateful for.  Dylan filled our eggs with the things that he is so very grateful for.  Then we each respectively hid the eggs we wrote our notes in for the other to find. 

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As we found the eggs we excitedly cracked them open to see what the other was grateful for. Dylan took a long time putting much thought into what he wrote.  And when I cracked his eggs I found that he was incredibly sweet. And gracious. I cherish every single note. One even said he was grateful for living in the USA and being free.  Come. On. Precious. 

So as I sit here the morning after Thanksgiving, the first one up and already sipping on my coffee I reflect.  Reflect how grateful I am that our family of four spent the entire day together. So happy that we’ve been able to spend more time together lately. Grateful that we got to visit two sides of our extended family.  Grateful that we got to nourish our healthy bodies with Thanksgiving deliciousness. Grateful that I get to type this from the comfort of our home in a safe neighborhood. Yes so very grateful for so many things, including the creation of our family’s special and silly new Thanksgiving tradition.

What are your Thanksgiving traditions?

XOXO,

Brandi

Holiday Madness

It's that time of year again! The holidays are upon us and for some of us, that means the sheer craziness of deciding where to go when. For my family that's a particular task. I have divorced parents, in laws, siblings in from out of town, and a lot of birthdays. So we joke that once Thanksgiving hits we will all see each other every weekend through January. That's pretty truthful ;) 

But for Thanksgiving and Christmas, where do you go? How do you make everyone happy? How do you split the time up? For me, this is pretty simple. Make yourself, your husband, and your kids the priority. No one thinks it's fun to pack up kids and try to everyone on one day! For Thanksgiving we just pick one place... it is different every year but we have come to the realization that we can't be everywhere. Our parents live over an hour from each other and it's just not practical- or fun. On Christmas we go to one parents house on Christmas Eve and the other on Christmas Day, but we always spend Christmas morning with just us at our house.

My friend Allie just wrote an entire post on this, which I loved, so I will reblog it here for you... She gave some great advice on avoiding the holiday drama! 

Take it away Allie:

"Are holidays a tad stressful for you with fitting everyone in and making everyone happy??
Funny Mike's holiday Ecard: Let's shake things up over the holidays by not constantly complaining about the holidays.
Jordan and I have both sets of parents divorced so have the ultimate hurdle to hop through on making it to all the holiday eventsand trying to fit it all in, while fitting in the needs of our children.
 
Before we had kids it would not phase us to just jump in the car and run here and there and everywhere, we could cover so much ground and didn't mind doing so. But throw in 1, 2, 3 and now 4 kids and things get trickier. We have learned a few things through the years and now the holidays are a breeze for us and also I think we do a good job of trying to get all our visits in! Here are a few tips to making the holidays not so stressful.
 
Holiday DATES.
This is one that I really do not get. I understand Thanksgiving is on a Thursday and Christmas is always the 25th, BUT, will it really make your time less important if you celebrate on a Friday or Saturday near those holidays? If your answer is yes, no offense you may need to rethink some things. Holidays are about spending time together with your loved ones, no matter how many hours or which date the calendar reads. We celebrate whenever we can, shoot I think we may even be celebrating "Christmas" with my parents when they are here when baby #4 arrives. And guess what, that is amazing to me. Having my parents here with our family and celebrating the love we all share and a good meal. Nothing gets better than that, no date or day of the week can change that. Therefore look at the calender and talk about other dates that may work other than the actual holiday date for you and your family to celebrate.
 
Compromise. 
This doesn't just go for you and your husband, although that is the most important but also for your extended family. Switch off years for holidays if people are not willing to switch dates. Host the holiday at your house and invite both sides and knock it all out. I know this can be tricky with divorced families but for Easter we invite everyone, all our sets of parents and just go with it. It has yet to end with any drama, because thankfully our parents do well! haha! But hosting at your own home allows you to call all the shots, if you are not a great cook, ask people to bring things. Not every holiday has to be out of a Martha Stewart Livingmagazine. 
 
Communicate.
This really is so important for you and your husband. This topic can make people very bitter and resentful which is why having agame plan is key. Holidays are NOT WORTH fighting over. There are so many ways to avoid the drama. The last person you want to be arguing with is your husband and at the end of the day, some people are just arguing over a day or date. Hence why I mention celebrating on different days. You also need to keep lines of communication open with your parents and in-laws, let them know your ideas and struggles and they should help. My parents have been so fabulous about holidays and really helped us because at the end of the day they do not care when they see us, they just want to see us. So keep the lines of communication open with everyone.
 
Be Honest.
I guess this goes with communicate and shouldn't be too hard but for things to go smooth, be honest. If you really don't want to spend the night away from your home on Christmas, tell your husband, don't just go along with it and be pissy the whole day. No one wants to be around a couple who is arguing on the holidays. Buzz kill. Speak up at the start when you guys discuss the holiday plans, don't just brush it off. Being honest, not just in this aspect but in your marriage is so key. Your husband can not always read your mind. So, be sure to speak up....or at least don't complain when the plans go how you discussed because you did not choose to speak up and be honest. Trust me, I used to be the timid girl who never spoke up! 
 
Stick together.
Do not throw your spouse under the bus and say "this was his idea" or make snide remarks. Communicate from the start and stick to the plan. You are a united front together and made the decisions together. You did it in attempts to make everyone included happy so please do not throw your husband or wife under the bus. You are doing the best you can and trying to fit everyone in.
 
Those are really the tips we stick to. We plan early and give everyone heads up to make sure everyone knows our plans. I am very happy with our holiday game plan. We have been following the same one for the past few years and it works. This year is obviously kind of a cluster with throw baby #4 in right before Christmas but we will make it to as many events as humanly possible. 
 
What are your tips for making everyone happy?? Or avoiding the drama??"
 
HAPPY THANKSGIVING -- hope you all have a safe & happy holiday! 

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