Who knew pooping on the potty would be such.a.big.deal.
Colton, who is now 3, will pee on the potty just fine. Yes, this blog is going to be all about the potty. If you ask him to go in the bathroom and try to go poop he will be like "no. I don't want to. I'm fine" etc... So we got a little desperate. There is nothing wrong with a good ole bribe, right? So we thought.
We would take him to the toy store and let him pick out what he wanted most: a train table. He is obsessed with train tables. We usually go to Barnes & Noble at least once a week so he can play with the one they have. We would go home and set him on the potty and ask him to try really hard to go. He would reply that he just didn't want to. We would show him pictures of the train table and talk about how we could go RIGHT NOW to the toy stpre to get it. He would just say "that's okay, I don't even want that". Nothing worked, literally nothing
Keep in mind we tried this for months, we didn't just try it once and give up, this has been going on for.ev.er. So we decided to take him to the mall. He picked out the biggest and best helicopter he could find. We promised he could have it as soon as he went poop on the potty.
While sitting on the potty he insisted he didn't care about helicopters and didn't want that either. Another fail. We were desperate. We promised him basically anything and everything. He would be sitting there and we would name all his favorite things "you can go to the big pool"(Sylvania Country Club), "we'll take you to Dylan's house", "we'll buy you toys to the ceiling" (yes, we actually said that... don't judge).
Nope. Still nothing. We got so annoyed and realized nothing we said mattered. We tried putting him in underwear, he still went in it. We made him go naked, he went on the carpet- twice. He didn't care. We finally watched him every second of the day and would not let him out of our sight and soon as he started crossing his legs and bending over (he was pantless) we rushed him to the potty and said he could not get up. HE FINALLY WENT :) Jeff was jumping up and down, telling him how proud and happy he was. Colton was incredibly proud of himself too, and not two minutes later he said "we can go get my helicopter now, and my train table! I want to go to the big pool, Playland, Dylan's house, the park, AND I want toys to the ceiling!". The kid never forgot a word we said.
We didn't care, we started making the rounds...Helicopter-check. Train table- check. Then we realized he was remembering EVERYTHING we ever said. This was getting to be a lot... we had to take him to the pet store, and the park, and the toy store. We made a lot of promises. We couldn't break them now, especially since we wanted him to keep going on the potty.
The next day he said to me "mommy, daddy told me I could ride a bulldozer". Oh Lordy, in Jeff's desperate moment he must have resorted to telling Colt he could ride a bulldozer if he would just go on the potty. I looked at him and asked if Daddy really said that. He said "Yes, he will pay the guy outside to let me". We happened to be having new pipes laid right outside our house and a giant bulldozer was out there. Jeff fessed up that indeed he had a week moment and told Colton basically anything he wanted to hear. So when the construction crew left for the night we ran Colt across the street for his big moment of sitting on the bulldozer. I told him we forgot the key so he could just sit on it this time.
I am so proud Colton is finally not scared to go poop on a potty. I seriously never knew it would be such a big deal. Potty training can definitely be frustrating, I'm just glad we are getting somewhere. Now I know to not promise everything under the sun because we are going to have to deliver! So watch what you tell those kiddos, because they do not forget! We spent the whole weekend trying to fulfill our promises to him, let's just say he had a good weekend, and we are broke!
Happy Tuesday :) - Lisa
Today my parents celebrate 39 years of marriage. 39 YEARS! They have spent more years together than they have spent apart. Almost 70% of their lives as Mr. & Mrs.
I’m not sure when they exchanged vows as teenagers they realized what an amazing love story they would create. I’m not sure if they knew they would serve as role models for the benefits of a happy marriage. On July 27, 1974, I’m not sure if they knew they would learn how to love life and love each other as madly, deeply and fiercely as they do now.
Soul Mates is such a cliché concept, but it’s hard not to believe when you grew up in our household. You see Marty and Marta (I know, right?) were just meant to be. Their destiny together began in a high school hallway when someone shouted “Marti” my dad’s name and my mom’s nickname. They both turned around. (Insert cheesy romantic music, a green meadow and eyes only for each other). Introductions were made and almost forty years, three children and four grandsons later they celebrate their companionship on this day.
I realize how lucky I am to grow up with parents who not only love each other, but are in love with each other. I am incredibly grateful to see the strength of their partnership has only grown over the years. It would be a shame if I didn’t learn from this incredibly happy married couple.
WHAT I HAVE LEARNED ABOUT MARRIAGE FROM THE PARENTS
Make the Marriage Bigger than the Wedding-More effort, time and energy needs to be placed on the everyday marriage than the one day celebration.
Commitment- A diamond wedding ring does not represent commitment. The determination to make a partnership work, the unwavering eyes only for each other, and the appreciation that you have a partner in this crazy thing we call life will cement the relationship.
Hold Hands-A relationship is never too old to hold hands. I can’t help but smile every time my dad reaches for my mom’s hand. It’s a reminder of young love that have grown over the years.
Let the Other Be-I am quite certain my parents spend more time together than the average married couple, but they both give each other the space to be who they are. My mom doesn’t complain that my dad leaves to play basketball four times week, or goes to the Tennessee Vols football games on the regular (even though they live in Ohio) At least she doesn’t complain much.
Be Best Friends-My parents are each other’s best friends. They enjoy time together, they whisper secrets to each other, and they laugh at their inside jokes.
Be On The Same Team-There was no pinning one parent against the other because we grew up knowing that mom and dad were co-captain of the same team.
Be The #1 Fan- They are always cheering each other on no matter what.
Celebrate the Small Things-It’s not uncommon for my parents to pick up and spend a romantic day forty minutes away, or drive hours to explore a new city. One time I asked what the special occasion was. There answer, “It’s Tuesday.” Celebrate Tuesdays with your best friend.
Keep Falling In Love-A successful marriage requires falling in love many times..always with the same person. Fall in love every day.
My mom and dad are the center and foundation of our family where life begins and love never ends. I don’t know of many other couples as devoted to each other as my parents are to one another. I hope that my husband, Denny and I can demonstrate to our children the unconditional love my parents display every single day.
Do you come here often? I know you, don’t I? Can I buy you a drink? Ya know normal pick-up lines usually fortified by liquor courage used by singles to start up a conversation. A conversation that could lead to a relationship, or at the very least a fun night out. Oh the wonderful world of dating. Lead with a pick- up line, hope for a conversation (or just free drinks), and at the end you can choose to exchange numbers, keep the night going, or walk away hoping to run into each other again (or not).
Being happily married my days of pick-up lines are long gone. Not that I ever used them or offered to buy drinks in my single days ha. Nope, I’ve never been a pick-up line kinda girl..until now.
No need to send marriage counselor referrals. Definitely not flirting with anyone other than the hubs. But meeting a new mom really isn’t that much different than meeting someone you hope to date. Really think about it. Replace the bar and other single mingling venues with the mom hangouts.
Sometimes I see moms waiting in a grocery line, ordering up a coffee at Starbucks, or watching her kiddos at the park and wonder if we would be friends. There are times when watching these unsuspecting moms interact with her children, hearing tidbits of her phone conversation, (such an eavesdropper), looking at what she’s reading (seriously I should be a private investigator) that I am almost certain we would be friends.
Last month, I was solo waiting in line at a local deli behind a cute mom who was intently supervising her son watch the bakers make bagels. She watched him such interest and a smile on her face. She was patient with his questions. She was engaging him in conversation. It was pretty much “mom like” at first sight- Yes, definitely mom friend material.
The Pick Up
Replacing a dating pick-up line, I used a classic mom one, “oh how old is he?” smiling at her child. She replies, “five.” And. I’m. In. “Oh I have a five year old boy too.” And so the conversation begins. Waiting in that long line we discovered we lived in the same neighborhood, our boys will be starting kindergarten together at the same school, our moms are both elementary school nurses. (yes, it was a really long line.)
We both get ready to check out and just like the 2:00am last call at the bar, it’s decision time. Time to say goodbye and see if we run into each other again or the number exchange. It was really the first time I chose the latter but I had some caffeine courage in me so I went for it. Pulling out my business card, I suggested a play date with the boys. She emailed a couple days later and after a few emails of scoping each other out and passing each other’s prescreen normal test, we scheduled a hook-up or in the mom meeting world, a play date.
For some reason I did have a little nerves walking to our meet up spot. Will I recognize her? Will there be a lot of awkward silence? Will our boys get along? But it was a perfect first mom date- we went for a walk and talked the entire time. The boys got along great running a safe distance in front of us. We continued the playdate with a quick stop at my house for some playground time and capped it off with an ice pop. Success. Yep, this might just become a mom-match made in heaven.
How do you meet new mom friends? Have you ever exchanged phone numbers meeting a mom you thought had friendship written all over her? I’m glad I did.
Happy Mom Dating.