To My 10 Month Old,
Today we celebrate your 10 month birthday. Seriously, how has it been ten months?
We don’t celebrate month birthdays you say. Oh, but we do. Today we celebrate that we welcomed you to our family on January 3, 2013. Celebrate that we have had ten months already to love you. Today, like every day we celebrate watching you as you discover your world.
And your world little man is filled with walking with kitchen chairs. Walking with ottomans. Walking holding onto the couch. Walking along the parameters of the wall. You are so driven. You can see the determination in your eyes to conquer this milestone. You have taken up to five steps unassisted. And afterwards flashed us the biggest smile ever as we applauded.
And can you talk about your smile? Still lighting up the room. Your smile is the definition of pure joy and happiness. Sometimes you squeal because you cannot contain your complete delight.
You haven’t had a baby food you didn’t like. You sleep through the night. You love watching your brother in all of his activities. You my dear heart are such a blessing.
So yes, we celebrate you Blake Martin at ten months old. We celebrate that you entered our lives and daily world. We celebrate the milestones you have so proudly accomplished. We celebrate the milestones you will achieve in the future. We celebrate that you turned our happy family of three into our happy family of four. Oh yes, today we celebrate YOU.
Just over a year ago I got the awesome opportunity (if that's what you call standing in line for.ev.er. to get into bakery) to actually go to Carlo's Bakery in Hoboken, NJ! I went with my friends Allie and Tera. We actually went to NYC for a charity event (read about it here on Allie's blog) but how could we not stop in Hoboken! Yes, that means we drove there! Looking back on that trip, we had such a great time, I would do it all over in a heartbeat!
Anyhow, back to Carlo's Bakery... let's just say I LOVE cake. I mean I really like any and all junk food so whatever, but white cake with white frosting might be my weakest point ;) true love. We waited in this huge line, over an hour, to get inside the bakery. I heard it's always like this! See below for all the sugary goodness of Carlo's Bakery! If you ever head that direction, you should definitely stop there!
Before I get to posting my pics from that trip, you guys can see Buddy for yourselves at The Stranahan! I am definitely going, so let me know if you are too!
The Family Celebrations Tour
Join America’s favorite baker, Buddy Valastro at Toledo’s Stranahan Theater Nov 16th at 7:30 PM, for an all new show of cakes, stories, and fun. In this live, interactive event, TLC's Cake Boss will share stories from his highly popular TV shows (Cake Boss, Next Great Baker), his family at Carlo’s Bakery, will answer audience questions, and most importantly, will give lots of live cake & cupcake decorating demonstrations, sharing tips and techniques in a high-energy experience for the whole family!
Readers of Moms In Heels receive $5 off of tickets. Click here and use the code ‘BUDDY’.
Now onto the photos :)
I absolutely hate when I am misunderstood.
Last month I was out and about and I made a comment that was completely misinterpreted. Funny how easy that can happen. I said something along the line of...
“I never thought I would be a working mom. I really just wanted to be a stay at home mom”
I am sure I rolled in my eyes in some dramatic disgusted way and sounded super annoyed. On that particular day at that particular moment, I was a little annoyed. Being a working mom can be a juggling act, and in that second I felt like I was dropping all the balls.
I 100% understand how someone could have misconstrued my words. I did put them out there for interpretation. For someone to add their own spin. I didn’t elaborate at all. I said it. And then I moved on to a different subject.
What I think the person heard..
I wanted to marry someone that afforded me a life style so I could sit at home and be some suburban real life “Toledo House Wife.” My calendar filled with shopping dates, massages and other luxury lifestyle accessories. Maybe sit on the couch eating bon bons. AS IF this is what most stay at home moms get to do, right? Ha. These things do sound heavenly. And let’s be honest I would enjoy the heck out of them. But that’s not what I meant.
NOT what I meant at all.
WHAT I KNOW I MEANT...
I want to wake up every single morning and make breakfast for my school aged child. A real breakfast, not just a bowl of Lucky Charms cereal with no milk because I didn’t forgot to go to the grocery store after working late the night before. And have a long meaningful breakfast conversation. Talk about the day that lays ahead of him. What is he most excited about? What is he most worried about?
Oh and I want to stay in my pajamas and snuggle my 9 month old.
Some days these things happens. I cherish those days.
I want to be home every day to get my Kindergartener off the school bus. I want to be the very first face he sees jumping off that school bus step. I want to hold his hand and walk him into the house. I want to sit at the kitchen table and go through his folder in a leisurely manner as soon as we walk in. On special occasions this happens, often times it does not. Usually the babysitter gets the pleasure of being his after school greeter.
I want to have the energy and the time to play. Just play. With no thoughts of how I should be sending an email, typing a report, checking my phone, working on a project. Don’t get me wrong I am proud of my work, so very thankful for my clients, happy to be a business owner. I take my work seriously, very seriously. So to play with no outside thoughts and worries sounds pretty magical. I’m working on this, as I know this one is possible even if you are working.
Look, I had daydreams of arts and crafts and adorable little lunches, before I even became a mom. Before Pinterest even existed. I thought I would be a stay at home mom. That’s not the case. Some days, I would even venture to say most days, I am in love with my life. With my work. With my balance of family and career. Other days though I feel like I am getting a big fat F- in every category. But I am doing my best. And I really do love the opportunity I have to work with my clients and my projects.
Words can be tricky when the whole picture isn’t painted. My whole picture consist of being the absolute best mom that I can be. Sometimes I feel like I’m failing and wonder if I would be doing a better job if I was a stay at home. But who knows maybe if I was at home I would feel I could do a better job if I was working out of the home. All I know is that I am determined to be the best I can in any and all roles I juggle, and to watch my words a little better.
ps- Totally not engaging in the so called Moms War. Being a working out of the home mom can be hard. Being a stay at home mom can be hard. I don’t think one is better or easier than the other. I think that if you want to be a stay at home mom and you are – You are fortunate. I think if you want to be a working mom and you are – You are fortunate. On most days, I feel pretty gosh darn fortunate.
XOXO - Brandi