Today was the first day of kindergarten for my five year old, Dylan.
For me, it was yet another BIG Motherhood Milestone. A milestone met with anticipation of the unknown that I was forced to face and that resulted in every emotion imaginable. If there’s an emoticon for it, I felt it.
Motherhood is so flippin crazy. Every time you turn around something new, something big, something you know is going to occur eventually but creeps up and hits you in the face happens.
Just when you think you got it all figured out. As soon as you upgrade your mom biz card from Newbie to Master EVERYTHING CHANGES. In fact, it’s a completely different ballgame. You are constantly scrapping your old game plan, your old schedule, your old effective motherhood strategies and starting all over. A child goes through so many different stages, which means you do too.
Let’s explore shall we?
Stage: Sleepless Night.
Objective: Lean how to cram an entire days’ worth of productivity into the little window of baby nap time. (or follow the advice sleep when they sleep you sleep, but even this is a learned skill for many)
The Test: Can you function as a “normal” human being with zero sleep?
Finishing Line: At some point you get to celebrate the victory of sleeping through the night (although for first time moms this just means you are practicing your secret spy moves of sneaking in the nursery a few hundred times to make sure breathing is still occurring). This magical milestone really does deserve its own party. You survived the sleepless night stage. Congratulatory cards, balloons and hugs to you.
Running concurrent with this is….
Stage: Want to Be Held (and gosh darn it I want to hold you too).
Objective: Learn to do everything with one hand. Wipe down kitchen counters, eat, type/text, put on makeup. All one handed.
The Test: How fast can you do everything you need to do with just one hand while holding the baby in the other?
Finishing Line: As soon as you are ready to enter the one handed soup eating contest—your child no longer wants to be held because now. Yes, we are moving on.
Objective: Learn to drop whatever you are doing faster than someone changes the channel when Miley Cyrus appears on the VMA Stage.
The Test: Your endurance and eyesight. Can you get to your Olympic training crawler before they reach the granite coffee table your husband forgets to move in the basement out of harms way? How fast are you when your child is about to pull on visible tv wires? Are you sure you picked up every Power Ranger fighting sword, bouncy ball, and little lego from the floor? Because if not, the crawler who happens to be teething will find it and put it in their mouth. It’s just a given.
Finishing Line: Your endurance is improving. Your floor is baby proofed. You are as fast as your crawling baby, which is awesome because now they are done crawling.
Objective: Drop everything you are doing quicker, run faster and baby proof higher.
The Test: Same test as crawling, only your speed and agility must improve and you may be met with additional obstacles as more toys are required to entertain.
The Finishing Line: At this point you completely realize there really is no such thing. Because let’s face it as soon as you conquer one stage that stage no longer exists and you are training for the next. Learn. Complete. Move On.
Not moving, turns into rolling over, turns into crawling, turns into walking, turns into running. And later it may be running with bonus Ninja chops.
Sleeping all day, turns into two naps, that turns into one nap that turns into no naps (By the way, this is a sad day. A very sad day.)
Breastfeeding and/or formula, turns into baby food, that turns into table food. Warning: It seems as though taste buds can change quickly. The grilled cheese that was a crowd favorite and go-to lunch is now the most disgusting thing ever. Which is tricky because my guy loves cheese and loves bread. Go figure. There really is no time to figure this out though. Just make a peanut butter and jelly and carry on.
Just crying, turns into crying and babbling, turns into crying and learning to talk, turns into crying and never being quiet.
For us watching Little Einstein, turns into Dora, turns into Team Umizoomi. And as soon as you learn to tune out the annoying Nick Jr. noises it turns into just regular big kid Nickelodeon annoying noises.
Kindergarten mom friends are added to PreSchool mom friends who are added onto Newborn mom friends.
Seriously all this happens so fast. From laying your eyes on your precious little angel in that hospital room to holding back tears as they load up on the school bus for the first day of Kindergarten and all the stages in between. It’s a crazy ride. All I can say is buckle up, toughen up, get use to change and be ready to celebrate each and every stage. Because every single Mommy Milestone met is pretty gosh darn incredible.
Find Your Heels is a movement being launched by yours truly- Moms In Heels creators, Lisa Harst and Brandi Waleirus, to inspire and motivate anyone and everyone to balance the person you were, with the person you are, and the person you want to be. It’s about doing the things that make you happy, having big dreams for tomorrow, and making things happen today.
This is a brainchild that has been talked about since the initial days of Moms In Heels. You see, the name Moms In Heels wasn’t picked just because we are moms who happen to wear heels. Nope, it’s more meaningful than that. The Moms In Heels name represents maintaining our personal identity and our aspirations even though we both have taken on the most wonderful and most important role of motherhood.
We are not trying to do it all or have it all. We are just trying to do more things we love and continue to pursuit our dreams. Isn’t this what life is all about? Yes, we hit roadblocks. We take detours. Sometimes we even crash. Pretty sure life is about this too, but we are determined to embrace it and carry on. We want you to do the same.
Do you know what your heels are?
The heels is unique to you.
Maybe you want to complete a 5k.
You use to love painting and want to figure out how to bust out the paint again.
Maybe your dream is to write a book.
Your long term goal is to be your own boss.
Or maybe you just want to make more time for your family.
It doesn’t matter what your “heel” is.
It just matters what you are doing to find and fit in your heels.
Come join our Find Your Heels facebook community at www.facebook.com/findyourheels and make this judgment free supportive page your community too. Where engaging and sharing is encouraged and negativity is not welcomed. Where inspiration and pep talks are always free. Where we hope friendships are made and connections are built. Where we encourage all to find what makes you happy, your “heels”, and fit those heels into your already crazy hectic life.
Yes, we are asking you to find your heels, share your journey, cheer on others, ask for help, and celebrate successes. Let’s do this together.
Here’s to Finding Your Heels and sharing the adventure!
Brandi and Lisa
Being fit means being active, getting rest and eating healthy all day and night. Unfortunately, meeting these three goals is difficult for busy moms (really difficult). Good news: there’s a light at the fitness tunnel for us moms with the new Fitbit from Verizon Wireless.
The Fitbit’s clip-on monitor tracks the steps, distance, calories burned and stairs climbed during a workout or throughout the day. I was surprised to see how much I moved during the day without even knowing it. The best part? Once I realized how much the small walk up the stairs or trip to the grocery adds up, I started moving more and made an effort to walk instead of drive and take the stairs instead of the elevator.
Even though we all know sleep is one of the most important parts of being healthy, it’s something many of us skimp on to save time. I definitely am guilty of this! Fortunately, the Fitbit actually motivated me to get more restful sleep. It can be worn as a wristband at night to measure your sleep cycle, and gently wake you in the morning with its silent vibrating alarm (something Jeffrey definitely appreciated)!
It also helped me keep track of my food, water intake and workouts when paired with the its smartphone app. I’m always working to make better food choices and fight food cravings, but logging my food intake daily was a great way to encourage better eating and healthy choices.
To add more motivation to my health and fitness goals, I also tested the following apps suggested by my friends at Verizon:
Although getting in shape and making healthy choices can be difficult, it’s nice to have devices to keep yourself on track. With the Fitbit in my pocket every day, I had a mini personal trainer by my side reminding me to swap a drive for a bike ride and choose side salad over fries to keep me on track for a healthy lifestyle. And hey, even if I did sneak a scoop of ice cream (I definately LOVE ice cream), I could monitor my distance/calories burned to work it off. All in all, I say Fitbit from Verizon Wireless is a great way to go for those of you wanting improve your health and fitness!